I met a guy in February – just a few short weeks after I broke up with my boyfriend. I didn’t mean to meet anyone so quickly and I don’t think that he meant to meet anyone either. We met through a mutual friend on Facebook. We had a lot in common and he completely took me by storm. The e-mails and text messages turned into phone calls and eventually real life visits. Today is the 2nd day of October. As I was gearing up to take my 2nd trip to Belgium to see him, he tells me I can’t come hours before my plane was expected to leave Philadelphia. At this point, I’m not hurt, just angry – ok maybe a tad hurt.
I’m trying to be as calm and cool about the situation as can be, but to a certain extent, I want to match his immaturity – if just for second. So, I managed to get out one dirty e-mail. And then when I got to work I fired off another and then I phoned. The phone message I left was, “I will be sending you my bill”. Yes, I said bill. As I spoke to a friend earlier, she had me laughing hysterically of all the lost costs associated with this relationship; monetarily and non-monetarily. And it’s not just this one, it’s all relationships. I was going to send him this bill in real life, but instead I thought I would use it as a catharsis to get me through a very hard situation and simply blog about it.
1) Cancelled Plane Ticket = $500-$600
2) Lost wages for 1 week from part-time job = $150
3) Phone bill(s) = $500
4) Being a weak man = 8 months of my life I will never get back i.e. priceless
5) Dishonesty = lack of trust, bitter and hardened heart
One thing that I have learned is that you never really get anything back after a relationship. Sometimes you leave valuable things at a person’s house (as I did with my previous boyfriend) and sometimes you spend money on things to never see a return. Unfortunately, we all face that risk and have to chalk it up that our invoice, while valid, may never be honored.